Aristotle found that if a person has good virtue, that he will eventually become a man of virtue, which will do good to become good. His argument has been a lot of social psychologists have confirmed that studies show that if a man changed his mind, because of his behavior to change. In simple terms, the change is from the outside, not from the inside of the." American management experts, Professor of histology Herminia Isabelle (Herminia Ibarra) in the "reverse management act first and think later" a Book says.
As the social psychology of empirical research shows that no thoughts or emotions lead to action, but action has thoughts and emotions, so as to further activate the infinite loop action, emotion, idea. In this chain, the action is always the first step changes, change the actions will change our thoughts and emotions, and thus improve the effectiveness of our work and interpersonal relationships, and even change our inner self face.
Change the actions from external performance began to change
In the performance of their duties Months and years pass by. occupation career, we may be struggling to cope, even tired of daily work; we are eager to get rid of face everyday work burnout and emotional negative slack, eager to revive, brace up, just like the original entry to work just as full of freshness and passion for energy.
But I do not know why every morning to the gang, it began to go-slow uncontrollably. Our hearts more slack, more work can not afford to drive, and more not to mention the momentum of work, the heart will be more slack, thus forming a vicious spiral. Many employees in the face of this situation, in my heart always comfort myself that I adjust mood, full of energy after the hard work, self-motivated too late. But this idea not only self hypnosis, tell some fantastic tales.
The social psychology study shows that in daily life and work, we do not rely on the brain's ideas or emotional state to self cognition, but by "self cognition and self definition signal". A basic concept of self signal is the way we view ourselves and we see and judge the behavior of others is the same, namely from behavior to recognize their own self and inference. Our external negative slack behavior does not change, negative slack mood will always haunt us, and will continue to increase our own negative self evaluation.
So cheer up, really want to brace up to do a good job, only the first force yourself to change the external behavior, specific actions in the engagement, persevere beyond the responsibility of the working face, is not affected by the inherent negative emotional fetters; slowly, we will fully realize every day to work full and happy, at the same time, based on the work of the accumulation ability promotion and performance drop, to further enhance our sense of self-worth, self-esteem and a sense of achievement, make us the heart is more full of work passion and fighting spirit, and the original entanglement of our negative slack mood disappeared.
But to really work to improve our emotional and psychological state by changing the external performance, it requires us to pay close attention to the details of the work and the work of the dynamic environment read the perspective of daily work, good at finding improved little need to work, then take the initiative as, through continuous improvement of working methods, work to overcome the challenges to solve all kinds of problems, work, to expand ideas, expand horizons, temper work accomplishment, continue to make its contribution value.
If we still hold a stiff stiff perspective look at the daily work of curing, immutable and frozen, or the use of the old method of old-fashioned, long-standing working face, not to see the new challenges and new requirements of daily work environment and the dynamic changes of the internal and external positions proposed by us, so we can only continue to indulge in work, lack of power work loss of interest, negative psychological morass of heart.
Change the action, should pay attention to actively improve the internal and external relationships
In the current "Internet plus" China manufacturing 2025 "new technologies change rapidly under the background of the times, enterprises can only rely on the strength of a team continue to struggle, innovation, quality and efficiency, transformation and upgrading, in order to adapt to market changes and meet customer needs, support enterprise organization science for sustainable development. As a member of the organization, we should take the initiative to integrate into the team, and actively improve the internal and external relationships with team colleagues, partners and customers and other organizations, to help us better to do their work, make contributions to the unique value of organizational development.
To really do a good job, cooperate and assist the team we cannot do without partners, cannot do without the encouragement from superiors and colleagues, tolerance, appreciation and external customer feedback technology support and emotional support. Social psychology research shows that interaction with our internal and external relationship and others constitute our social capital, our social support and social connection system. As the American management scholars, positive psychologist Sean Achor says in "happy competitiveness" in one book, "our relationship with others than all things in the world are more important, and these relations accumulated is our" social capital ". It will not only make our emotional resources, mental and physical energy multiplication, but also enable us to more quickly from setbacks, has achieved more and more to feel a sense of purpose."
The empirical study shows that social support staff is the secret of happiness and against the pressure of the antidote, it is also the main factor of success in the work of the staff. The same social bonds can also help us to play their own unique strengths, to achieve more in life and work; even the study found that social ties can not only predict happiness of the whole, but also to predict the ultimate achievement, occupation and income level. Therefore, in the daily work, the organization encourages team members to work more exchanges and communication, they can feel more work, more energy, can also be a longer period of time to focus on a difficult task. In short, the team members in their social support, social connection system more investment, their work will produce better results, team effectiveness and personal occupation development will therefore benefit.
Each of us no matter how intellectual virtues, open-minded, very fruitful, can jump out of the "self" of the box, we are due to self blind thinking, single view, limited knowledge, lack of information as a result of the idea is limited and narrow, inefficient, flawed; and team colleagues, partners and external customers are can we see clearly to the external perspective problem, insight into our difficulties, and we provide all kinds of work in a timely manner to the feedback and help, including new perspectives, new knowledge, new information, new experiences, new methods. As long as we listen to others, humbly accepted the feedback, we can quickly update the ideas, we expand our horizons of work, improve our ability to work, and timely eliminate before self thinking is narrow but can not see the work hazards and avoid major mistakes, problems and frustrations, thus greatly enhance the effectiveness of our work.
At the same time take the initiative to ask for advice and accept others feedback, we can make more gratitude and respect for others; feel our heartfelt gratitude and respect the feelings of colleagues, partners and customers, we will be more respect and appreciation, so as to continuously improve the quality and effectiveness of both interpersonal interaction.
Of course, we ask for advice, accept others for help and support to others in a modest, but also actively provide assistance to others work with emotional support and encouragement, and team partners together to build mutual aid and harmonious interpersonal atmosphere to enhance our organization, social capital, to strengthen and enhance our organizational cohesion.
Through the "internal external experience", and then change and expand our self-concept
In short, our own understanding of the way in psychology is called "self concept" is closely related to the concept of self concept and self tells us the story and others to evaluate our lives. In other words, that is "self narrative": it includes US based on past experience of life choice induction in a kind of self image and fixed with memory, thinking, emotion, feeling and impulse the whole. In order to give meaning to our thoughts and actions, this is a thinking framework as to serve our story. And when we assimilate to verbally describe our experience content, we talk about is "self concept as content".
For example, we based on the past experience of life and the evaluation and feedback from others, that he is an introvert, then we will have consciously avoided social tendencies, not active with others; and if we're clumsy-handed, a loser, then we will try to avoid all possible talent situation so, to follow their own self concept description (even though we have a lot of potential, he may not realize). Thus, as the self concept content has hindered our growth and development, on the other hand, in our daily life and work, tend to unconsciously only by paying attention to those in favor of environmental factors to consolidate self concept to confirm and strengthen self concept.
Self concept like invisible inhibition or we posted on his forehead tag, we follow the label to determine their own, limit myself to restrain himself, so that we become more and more restricted. The reason for this situation, largely because most of the time, we and the concept of self integration, we put their own story telling as to accept the fact, don't even realize it is a kind of inherent concepts that can change the assumptions, this in psychology is called "cognitive fusion" so we for all this happened without awareness.
Behavioral studies have shown that self concept break rigid in the work, we must carry out the "identity", which is based on the current shape, correct and even reshape our work status. On the one hand, we need to challenge and break our self-concept, especially those involved in the negative definition of self concept, such as we think of low emotional intelligence, unable to integrate into the team, that he clumsy-handed, what does a good time and so on; we should take the initiative to learn the strengths and advantages from colleagues around, continue to improve our team and professional work ability, finally through the fact that changes to their negative views.
On the other hand, we carry out the daily work, from the "mentality to pay attention to the maintenance of self image" (self concept to "stiff curing) to enhance self-worth contribution, organization harmony and win-win power" transformation. If we were to "maintain self image" mentality to carry out daily work, so we can only do the work of their own good, dare to try new work challenges and opportunities, to contact the new team project, and external customers, once the encounter is not smooth, afraid of failures or setbacks, and thus a threat to the eyes of the superior and in the eyes of their own self-image; but the more did not dare to try, the more we will have new experiences and new experience, the more we can not progress and grow our image in the eyes of their own colleagues and superiors, more rigid, curing 10% unchanged.
And if we take "self value contribution, boosting organizational harmony and win-win as the goal oriented, we don't care about the self curing maintenance stiff image, but through the practice of innovation, actively enhance the professional skills, work accomplishment that temper, it suffered a temporary failure. The innovation and exploration work persevere, we not only improve the working ability, expand the horizons of work, harvest work, and more importantly, our self-concept has thus undergone subtle changes and expansion, we no longer think of themselves, not gregarious, introverted, timid useless; in the long-term work and team partners and customers to communicate with, and we're really in action by each and every day, in fact, is proven to yourself that you are brave and strong, positive and optimistic, good at integrating the excellent staff team, help the organization harmony and win-win, this whole process is called the "internalization of external experience".
American cognitive scientist Dan Danit (Dan Dennett) pointed out that "our story (our self narrative incessantly tells the self life script) as the spinning wheel, but most of the time, we are not in spinning it, but it is in our spinning."American management scholar Dan Mcadams (Dan McAdams) pointed out, "a person's identity is an intrinsic and evolving story - from the past, present and future." So we in the daily work, not only in the past or work experience based on their own self curing some stiff clung to cognitive or self concept, and to fully realize that with the new environment based on the present work we take the initiative to meet the dynamic changes and new requirements, continue to carry out innovative practice, the courage to overcome the challenges of work, and continuously made new achievements and new progress in the work, in this process, we will reap endless new experience and new inner sentiment, and these fresh external experience "Internalization", so as to continuously improve, revise and expand our old self concept.
We will not only open up new prospects for the development of occupation, will gain a new inner self; and the whole process is a combination of internal and external, mutually reinforcing, dynamic update, as long as we make unremitting efforts, we will develop better and better.
So, whether it is the improvement of our current emotional state, or to enhance the effectiveness of our team and interpersonal interaction partners, external customers, consolidate the social capital of us, or eventually change our inner self, we can only rely on the fundamental based on the current actual action -- only to change the actions of natural change will lead to subsequent emotion, the only idea; new actions, new methods and new practice, will make new achievements and new insights, we harvest new ideas and form new self.
We are professional, responsibility, innovation and practical action, in practical work, down-to-earth, persevere in the struggle, in every little bit work of continuous improvement and innovation in order to continue to create a better self, and output more fruitful work, people continued to boost the harmonious win-win and sustainable development of enterprises to science.